In the next several posts I will be reflecting on a common story. told by my wife and me. To quote my wife:
"My husband and I have agreed to
relate the story by telling it through two different perspectives, his
and mine, and by means of two different blogs, his and mine. We agree
that it is risky to leave ourselves open to either criticism and/or
voyeurism but it seems the only way to give the glory to our God. To not
talk about the things the Lord has taught us is to fail to acknowledge
God’s goodness."
I ask that you first read Blind Love and Blessings
And stay tuned.
Wednesday, May 23, 2012
Wednesday, May 16, 2012
Top Ten Myths about Bullies
In which an effort is made to dispel the most egregious
errors encountered by those forced to confront said villainous behavior and in
which the author recounts, with understandable ambiguity, assorted personal
trials and tribulations which, in anecdotal fashion, supply the modest
verification of the theses set forth
It becomes necessary at
the outset to define our term lest any reader be misled and wade through
the arguments presented only to discover it is not a topic of interest to them and thereby a waste of their time. To
those remaining at the end of the article: no refund of time or energy will be
given nor will there be any legal recourse available to you in protest of
said policy.
To be clear this essay is not about fish found in or around New Zealand, known as "bully" fish such as pakoko or titarakura - small freshwater fish of the genera Gobiomorphus and Philynodon.
To be clear this essay is not about fish found in or around New Zealand, known as "bully" fish such as pakoko or titarakura - small freshwater fish of the genera Gobiomorphus and Philynodon.
Neither is
the discussion at hand concerned with the adjective “bully” i.e. dashing, jolly, my bully boy nor the interjection "bully" used as "bully for you, well done! bravo!
And lastly, although this
one offers etymological mysteries worth exploring, this essay makes no investigation
of “bully” as used in the 1500’s: "sweetheart,"
applied to either sex, from the Dutch boel "lover,
brother."
Oh, and one more
disclaimer; this essay makes no further statement about “bully” as a
desperate, freewheeling scramble for a Soccer ball by a number of players, usually in the goal area; nor about “bully”
in Field Hockey - a method of putting
the ball into play in which two
opponents, facing each other, tap their sticks on the ground near the ball and then
make contact with each other's sticks over the ball three times, after which
each tries to gain possession of
the ball.
Those readers who
have persisted to this point are well advised and well equipped to understand
the general purpose of this essay. I
trust both of you will leave a comment.
[LEGAL HAS ASKED ME TO INSERT HERE A
DISCLAIMER TO THE EFFECT THAT NO WARRANTY, EXPRESSED OR IMPLIED, ATTENDS TO ANY
IMPLEMENTATION OF THE INFORMATION PROVIDED HEREWITH.]
Acceptable
definitions of bully include; a blustering, quarrelsome, overbearing person who
habitually badgers and intimidates smaller or weaker people; and similarly - a person who hurts, persecutes, or intimidates weaker people.
Through my lifetime – and I
do not intend this to be my last will and testament (unless all of the sundry
bullies I have encountered happen to read this, unite and form a coalition to ….
well let’s not dwell on that thought) – through my lifetime I have read about,
watched and heard about bullies; their number is legion (and perhaps their
name, too.) I have read about historical figures who qualify; I have known many
fictional and real bullies; the Bible has a veritable menagerie of them – for some
reason King Ahab comes to mind, although the real villain of that story is
Queen Jezebel – but I must ask the reader to stop interrupting my train of
thought because – let’s see, where was I – oh yes! Bullies I have known.
I only mention all this to
make the self-serving statement that I know about bullies. I have suffered at
their devices, at times stood up to them, and on the rare occasion seen some of
them handily defeated. I only offer in
this essay a list of the greatest and most dangerous myths about bullies.
Myth Number 10: “If someone makes you cry or will not let you
have your way, they are a bully.”
Not necessarily; in most
cases it just means you are a crybaby, or selfish, or spoiled, or lazy or well,
that’s the general idea.
Myth Number 9: “Bullies only
know how to use their brawn, not their brains.”
Again, not necessarily. Some bullies are very, very, smart. This is a dangerous assumption and leads
people to try and “out think” the bully when a better option might be to “out
run” the bully. Looks cowardly but sometimes discretion is the better part of
valor. As Bret Maverick once said, “He who runs away lives to run away another
day.”
Myth Number 8: “If you stand
up to A Bully, they will back down.”
No. No. No! Sometimes that
only brings you into range to have the living daylights beaten out of you. I was told this myth as a child and
implemented it unsuccessfully on a number of occasions. I have also made this
mistake as an adult; some lessons are harder to learn than others.
Myth Number 7: “No one likes a
Bully.”
Heard that one in the
third grade. Turns out many of the
girls liked him a lot; some of the boys
admired and followed him like ducklings imprinted on a Mama Duck and one of the
teachers thought he was “made of sterner stuff” than the rest of us and the
bully’s dad bragged that “he was a chip off the ole block.” Stand up to a bully
in some crowds and the crowd will beat the living daylights out of you. Trust me on this one. This is a true story.
Myth Number 6: “Bullies will
grow up and out of their bullydom.”
Again, I have seen no
statistical or even anecdotal evidence to verify this. What I have seen is
bullies get older, bigger and meaner. Not all of them mind you; some of them
get the living daylights beaten out of them along the way. Sad, but true. As the little girl said, “I’ll cry all night”
when that happens.
Myth Number 5: “Bullies only
use their physical advantage to get their way.”
Now this is a slight
variation of myth number 9 but it deserves emphasis. I have seen bullies use every tool, every
technique, and every trick imaginable. I
have seen rich bullies use money; I have seen poor bullies use poverty; I have
seen sad people use grief, sick people use illness, officials use their office;
friends use guilt, scholars use credentials, preachers use pulpits, reporters
use microphones, fools use folly and whole groups of people use history –
all in blatant efforts to bully others.
Myth Number 4: “Bullies get
what’s coming to them.”
Not in this life – not on
your life. I know judgment is coming;
but I recommend that you leave vengeance to God and to eternity. Don’t waste
time and energy in the here and now watching or waiting or trying to get even
or justice or satisfaction.
Myth Number 3: “Bullying is
caused by _________.”
Now, first a confession to
my readers, or reader if that other fellow left early – I rather
arbitrarily chose 10 for this list, knowing I could at any time change it to 11
or 7 or 5; writers seldom mention that but it is more common than most list
makers would like you to know; however number 3 could be expanded to make this
a list of 27 or 37 things about bullying that no one would ever read. My point
is that you can fill in that blank with anything you can think of - sports, business, religion, patriarchy, matriarchy, fallen arches – or preface those
with “the lack of: sports, business, religion, patriarchy, matriarchy, golden
arches – you get the idea. The fact
is bullying occurs anywhere and everywhere; in church, out of church, in the best
neighborhood, and in the worst. In the courtroom, in the cloakroom, in the boardroom,
in the locker-room, in the bedroom, in the classroom, in the – well,
everywhere. Bullying is just one more manifestation of sin that comes from the
human heart.
Myth Number 2: “We should make
bullying illegal.”
I would draft this
legislation, vote for this legislation, enforce this legislation - if it would
work; but – and this is very controversial but still true – it will not work.
At best, it is a futile gesture; at worst, it is another form of bullying; ironic, I
know, but sadly true. You may be happy
to know that the conduct of bullies is often illegal and already
punishable by fines, and/or incarceration; and the court of public opinion
(usually) frowns upon it. There is often
a great deal of head-shaking, hand-wringing about it (with stern letters to
follow) but that’s about it. The fact is it cannot be outlawed, proscribed or
made void where prohibited. It’s rather like the cockroaches of which bullies
often remind me. Ubiquitous, unstoppable and inescapable this side of the Great
White Throne Judgment.
Myth Number 1:
And before I list this
last myth, permit me a brief moment of self-congratulatory self-satisfaction
about guessing right on the number of myths; I was mowing my lawn in between
times and had to wait for it all to take shape in the grist forming in the mill
of my mind… anyway
Myth Number 1: “Bullies ruin everything.”
Oddly, you might want to
argue with me about this one; but hear me out.
In my final analysis, I do not think the bully ruins anything; don’t get
me wrong – it’s not for lack of effort; there is much thrashing, and weeping
and wailing, much sound and fury – but it signifies nothing. The bully causes
my backbone to stiffen; he still causes me to step into the arena, he still
makes me want to defend and protect the weak, to speak the truth, to stand for
right – even if I stand alone. And when I lay my head on my pillow at night,
when my conscience assesses my day, when I stand before my Judge – I will not
be sorry that I did.
P.S. Christians will understand about the Others:
Hebrews 11:32-40 32 And what shall I more say? for the
time would fail me to tell of Gedeon, and of Barak, and of
Samson, and of Jephthae; of David also, and Samuel, and of
the prophets: 33 Who through faith
subdued kingdoms, wrought righteousness, obtained promises, stopped the mouths
of lions, 34 Quenched the violence
of fire, escaped the edge of the sword, out of weakness were made strong, waxed
valiant in fight, turned to flight the armies of the aliens. 35 Women received their dead raised to life
again: and others were tortured, not accepting deliverance; that
they might obtain a better resurrection: 36 And
others had trial of cruel mockings and scourgings, yea, moreover of
bonds and imprisonment: 37 They
were stoned, they were sawn asunder, were tempted, were slain with the sword:
they wandered about in sheepskins and goatskins; being destitute, afflicted,
tormented; 38 (Of whom the world
was not worthy:) they wandered in deserts, and in mountains, and in
dens and caves of the earth. 39 And
these all, having obtained a good report through faith, received not the
promise: 40 God having provided
some better thing for us, that they without us should not be made perfect.
Friday, May 11, 2012
Book Review
Creation, Un-Creation, Re-Creation: A Discursive
Commentary on Genesis 1-11.
By Joseph Blenkinsopp,
New York
and London: T
and T Clark International, 2011, xii + 214 pp., $100.00 paper.
Joseph
Blenkinsopp, with a brilliant mind and admirable ability to write,
is a Catholic scholar of considerable merit. He is Emeritus Professor
of Biblical Studies at the University of Notre Dame, Indiana, USA. His research is obviously
familiar with rabbinic, patristic and medieval literature and he quotes with
ease from the works of Homer, Hesiod, Plato, Shakespeare, Donne, Cowper,
Nietzsche, and Barth.
The author adopts a format that assumes
creation cannot be restricted to an event, nor to two versions of an event.
He sees the biblical record as descriptive of an allegorical sequence:
creation - uncreation - recreation. He utilizes speculative discussion rather
than systematic exposition. His view
of Genesis is best summarized by his statement: “… the Biblical text is a
relatively late Hebrew-language version of a literary mythic tradition of
great antiquity” (page 132). He relies
heavily on the Graf-Wellhausen Hypothesis, also called the JEDP theory, in
which: J=Jahwist, E=Elohist, D=Deuteronomistic History, and P=Priestly Code. He sees these
as the “sources” of the patchwork literary quilt of the Hebrew Bible. Blenkinsopp never explains or defends this
theory but simply assumes that his readers know it and accept it as
foundational.
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Blenkinsopp, then, assumes Genesis to be
composed of fragmented myths about Creation, the Flood, early man, and Hebrew
origins. He contends these legends were orally assembled, and redacted through
the centuries after being adapted from Mesopotamian mythology. He suggests the Pentateuch may have reached
its final form as late as the Post-Exilic Period (538-432 B.C.).
The author is willing to allow for any
interpretation of Genesis chapter one except “a straightforward chronological
reading of the chapter” (page 20). He insists that the “ex nihilo” view of
creation, though accepted by Judaism and New Testament Christianity, is not the
preferred interpretation from a “linguistic and exegetical point of view” (page
30). The author finds it necessary to remind his readers that science assures
us that the earth is 4.5 billion years old and that the catastrophic extinction
of the dinosaurs 65 million years ago “led eventually to the emergence of
mammals, including humans” (page 5).
There is not even the whisper of an acknowledgement that many Biblical
scholars and competent scientists dispute this evolutionary tale; there is not
in the bibliography a single entry that would indicate that Blenkinsopp
has read any defense of a literal six-day creation; to be fair he does mention
“creation science” (page131); nor would he be comfortable with a framework
hypothesis for Genesis one and two. Such omission must be intentional
considering the author’s acumen and ability.
Given Blenkinsopp’s view of God, which could be charitably described as
open theism, it is probably inaccurate to describe his view as theistic
evolution.
Speculative discussion
serves Blenkinsopp’s purpose better as he promotes Genesis
1 – 11 as mythology; his view is that the Bible has no
more credibility or reliability than any other ancient Near Eastern (ANE)
mythology. He is clearly conversant and
comfortable with a plethora of mythologies and indicates they all have a
contribution to make in understanding human origins and specifically the
question of evil.
Blenkinsopp includes a
litany of speculative mythology including Adam’s “first” wife as Lilith or
perhaps a serpent-goddess. He is certain that there is no connection between
“Adam” and sin but finds perhaps an allegorical explanation of the nature of
death. His ethical concerns consist of how humanity can deal with a damaged
world “into which we, like the first parents, have been thrust” (page 19).
He also is very much
exercised over the long-term detriment of the concept of original sin and how
that has adversely affected the advance of feminism. Blenkinsopp leaves little
doubt about his dismissal of original sin; he laments, “This unfortunate
tradition of denigration, in which male fear of the female played, and
continues to play, a significant part, was perpetuated in Early Christianity”
(page 79). The “traditional” view of original sin offends “our modern
sensitivities” (page 80).
The author concludes, that Genesis 1 – 11, while not inerrant nor
infallible, can provide us with “often surprising resources for understanding
our place in the world, opening up new perspectives, and suggesting fresh
points of entry into a revelation and worldview that can free us to go beyond
our mundane formulations and taken-for-granted assumptions” (page190). What that revelation might be or what value
that worldview might have, Blenkinsopp is perhaps reserving for another book.
There may be some value in
such a book in a study of ANE mythology; its rambling format makes it less suitable
for reference. The book could be useful
for graduate students to observe the clear incompatibility the Graf-Wellhausen
Hypothesis with the doctrine of the inerrancy of Scripture.
David
Pitman
Temple Baptist College, Cincinnati, OH
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